Offered a family support worker for A's EBSA

The family support worker specialises in excluded lads/ gaming addicted lads. A hasn't been excluded. He's not a big gamer.

Do I need to see this individual. My 2 other children have excellent attendance. I feel we're being punished for A's neurodiversity. He has head and facial injuries from the car accident. I'm in a wheelchair. A tried to commit suicide in class and bit himself and threw things. Do I need to force him to attend and fail at another placement? He had been offered a special school place at an autism special school. They won't give a reason as to why he can't attend the special school - always that "Mainstream school of their choice can meet his needs.